I write so many things from my point of view, but sometimes it is necessary, even cathartic to consider what the view looks like from someone else’s predicament. My wife has been so good and understanding that I can sometimes forget the challenges that she faces. Mary and I decided some time ago that she would leave her job, as the ability to remain independent is slipping away from me. It seemed like such a good idea to both of us, but as her last days draw near and she sees the new person brought in to take over her project and responsibilities, ones that she had mental ownership of, I recognize the loss and turmoil suddenly smacking her in the face.
I have written things about how working towards the future is the most important part of a happy, fulfilling life. One of the possible advantages to falling in love later in life, an advantage if you let it be, is that you might not take what you have for granted, it’s not just an old shoe. One of the most exciting things is thinking about and developing a good future together. Perhaps reread the last line as I think that this is something important for all couples. In this, I must recognize that my troubles are also Mary’s troubles.
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My love to both you and Mary.
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You don’t know me from Adam, but I work with Chris here in Denver City. My wife was suspected to have ASL earlier this year after a visit to the Mayo clinic, with the confirmation coming just last month after another horrible nerve conductivity test.
Thank you for voicing some of what you feel and go through. She WAS the old shoe so to say. Though she has been the one to keep the house together all these years, I find myself having to take more responsibility of those tasks as well as the kids. To say I took her for granted all these years is an understatement. I’ve grown more aware of all she did those 20 years prior in our marriage, and it makes me realize more now how amazing of a woman she was and is! Hopefully we don’t switch places and I become the old shoe. I look forward to reading more of your posts as this is just my second one to read. This one struck me profoundly, so thank you! I pray for a cure and a miracle in each and every one’s lives that this disease has taken and turned upside down! You your wife and your family will be in my daily prayers!
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