Make it about performing to the best of your abilities, not the results.  

Results of course are important in attaining what you and your family need, but in sports and in life, total focus on results can tear you up.  It can make you miserable.  A success will make you happy, but only for a short time.  It’s like getting a new possession.  The excitement quickly wears off.   It can be an easy trap to get caught up in chasing money and success like an addict chasing the next high.  People often think that if they could only achieve that next big thing, then they will have the happiness that they long for.  

The act of striving and improving on the other hand provides continual nourishment.  One is less likely to get caught up in bragging and cheating if the joy comes from the act of trying itself.  I believe that this makes for a happier human.