My father, for most of his life, was a competent and respected force in his business and in life. That speaks for itself. He was simply content with that.
As he became older, long into his retirement, he started to try to entertain and impress more and more. The farther he slipped from his feeling of relevance, the harder he tried. A lot of patience and eye rolling met his final years. I now see how he was struggling to get back to a relevance that he was used to in the past. I wish I understood just a little better then.